How will I know if this relationship is still worth fighting for?
We’ve all been in a breakup that we knew would happen, but it’s still difficult to accept. All you can do is try and find the positive about things, even if they’re few and far between.
Sometimes it’s best to walk away from a situation that was never going to work out anyway. In the most painful of situations, though, sometimes couples have good reasons for staying together despite their differences — maybe they have children or have built up an incredibly high level of trust over the years with each other. But most often, unfortunately, getting out only leads to more heartbreak and more separation later down the line as more issues come up, and they end up having completely different life goals.
When it comes to long-term relationships, sometimes we never know how much time is left for us and our love interest. As humans, we all need love and companionship, and right now, I’m stuck in a situation where I don’t feel like my partner, and I will ever be able to work out the issues we have. Although we’ve been together for five years, I ultimately can’t accept the fact that he’s not doing anything to make his life better or improve his motivation in the areas that are important to me. To make things worse, he doesn’t want to hear about what’s wrong with him or how he could better himself.
I’ve tried to express my concerns and speak to him about how important it is to make changes for the better, but I’m simply getting nowhere. I don’t know what to do. Does this mean it’s time to move on? Not if you’re dealing with a guy who is still willing to work with you to improve your relationship.
Remember that all relationships are hard work, but the worst thing you can do is give up because you two have problems communicating or learning to manage your lives together.
The hardest thing about working on a relationship is getting a guy to commit to a long-term plan. If it’s going to work out, you need him to be emotionally invested in your relationship and have a general idea of where you’re going as a couple. But, on the other hand, if he doesn’t want to make plans for the future or spend time with you, then what’s even the point? You can try talking to him about what you want out of life, but ultimately if he doesn’t want…