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Should you change for the good of your relationship?
If you’ve always seen your future the same way, and then — BAM! — you find yourself in a relationship with someone wonderful, your perspective on what you want for the long haul — in terms of your profession, family, and everything else — changes radically. That’s perfectly OK! You shouldn’t have to give up your aspirations for the sake of love, but that doesn’t rule out the possibility of changing yourself for the good of the relationship.
What should I change for the good of my relationship?
1.) How you confront your partner
Arguments will inevitably arise in every relationship, and you may discover that the methods you have used to resolve issues in the past are no longer effective. For example, what happens if you’re a hot-tempered and straightforward person, but your spouse shuts down at first sight of a disagreement or conflict? First, you’ll have to figure out how to handle disputes constructively. What naysayers would describe as “changing who you are for someone else” is just “having the capacity to compromise to make a relationship work.”
2.) Compromise on social events
If you and your spouse are socially unsuitable (for example, if you’re an introvert and your partner is a social butterfly), it’s OK, and perhaps even necessary, for both of…
